“Lord, if there is any reason why I shouldn’t have this conversation, I pray you’ll make it clear. And if I should, I pray you’ll guide my mouth."
So, I’ve been thinking (uh oh) on a subject that I’m not quite sure I’m fully convinced of. In other words, even as of this writing, I’m not 100% sure of exactly where I stand on this issue. However, I’m confident that as I progress further in this writing, I’ll work things out via my prayerfully guided and Spirit-led, typed expression (just a complex way of saying, “Jesus, take the wheel”).
So, with that all of that great pressure on my back, let’s get started.
So, here’s the question: is every potentially contentious conversation worth having? In other words (I wish I knew another way to say this), is every instance of my aggravation, frustration, or indignation, worthy of conflict-resolving dialogue?
Well, in regard to the noted question, I’m kinda’ confident of my answer. LOL!! I ‘THINK’ the answer is no.
I mean the thought of the answer being yes gives me complete anxiety. Imagine your life, if upon ever irritation, you felt it was your absolute duty to confront every person perceived responsible for said irritation, with the hopes of somehow seeking resolve. In that mindset, you are now face-to-face with everybody’s opinion, everybody’s crazy, and everybody’s deep-rooted-issues-that-may-have-nothing-at-all-to-do-with-you (whew).
I wouldn’t doubt that you could find some positives in this approach; however, beyond those it otherwise seems pretty exhausting and even petty at best. I mean, I’d hardly imagine you’d ever keep a friend, if EVERY offense, put you on the defense.
So, with the certainty of that question, I now approach the uncertainty of this one…
How then do you decide which contention is worthy of conversation
I mean there are somethings you just have to let go. I’m driving down the highway and out of nowhere some SUV cuts me off from my exit. Furious? Of course. I believe at that moment that (don’t judge me people) you could boil a pot of water on my head. Still, is this the issue you want to pursue? Do you REALLY want to follow this unknown person, to Lord-knows where, and approach them?
Fact: people die that way.
On the other hand, I’m walking in a grocery store, I’m looking in the aisle for coffee, when out of nowhere; someone hits me with their shopping cart, and they don’t even say “excuse me” or “I apologize.” Surely, this has to be the time for confrontation, right?
I think the answer to this question, has to be made with consideration to your character, your analysis of the situation, and your convictions. However, if you’re still in limbo, please give consideration to these 5 ways to know, whether or not, you should let it go.
Kevin D. Jones, Sr.
Kevin D. Jones, Sr.