"Your new best friend or the person who could be the answer to your biggest problem could be in that room. HOWEVER, your fears are keeping you silent. Or worse, they’re keeping you AWAY from a blessing."'
So, today I’m beginning to own my own case of social awkwardness.
Now, don’t go too far, I’m not crippled by crowds. After all, I can hold it together in a social setting. However, if I’m being all the way honest, I’ll admit that I’m definitely not a fan of the unknown social settings, nor do I enjoy venues that require you to meet and engage people that you don’t know.
Fact: Ministry allows me to mask this struggle. When people come to the church where I serve, they encounter me in what I call “my element” (I love how I quoted that like I invented it.) They find me in my comfort zone. This can easily leave a person feeling like “this guy is what I wish I was in social settings.” And maybe, that could be true - for them.
However, if you were to take me out of that place, and place me in a new place, without a known face, and I’m instantly and unfortunately transformed. My mind takes over and the very space I found to be comforting, I now find to be challenging. Thus, I typically stay to myself, keeping me and every gift God has given me away from anyone in attendance.
Why is this a problem?
The problem with this is simple. My fears rob others of having a chance to take advantage of what God is doing in me.
In a room full of people, think of the possibilities: people to encourage, network with, advise, learn from, connect with, and all sorts of things. Your new best friend or the person who could be the answer to your biggest problem could be in that room. HOWEVER, your fears are keeping you silent. Or worse, they’re keeping you AWAY from a blessing.
In your silence and/or absence, all that God has placed in you remains bottled up. And, my prayers of today are to declare that this can’t continue, this is no good. This mentality must be reversed, and we have to start now.
So, to help us along the way, I’d like to provide you all with 5 tips that will aid your communication process.
Kevin D. Jones, Sr.
Kevin D. Jones, Sr.