Understand that your palms are sweaty because you’re trying to figure out what you can say, to make everything better. News flash: you can’t.
So, I was talking to a good friend of mine who said, “I don’t know how you do it.” To that I replied, “Do what?” They answered, “I don’t know how you know what to say to people, when they are going through tough times.” Confession point: Unbeknownst to him, neither do I. Fact is, I don’t think that anyone really KNOWS what to say. After all, people are diverse, personalities are even more assorted, and we all deal with hardships differently.
Not to mention, the task becomes even more difficult, when you consider those who (with good intentions) say the most ridiculous stuff. I mean, some of the things that I’ve heard people say by sick-bedside, at funerals, and in hospital waiting rooms, makes you want to ask them the following questions:
In fairness to them, (and I’m praying) maybe they didn’t know any better. Maybe, they thought their words were appropriate, because we hardly deal with the very sensitive subject of "hardship speech."
So, after considering all of my ministerial and life experiences on this topic, I've compiled this list of my 7 tips on what to say, when you REALLY don’t know what to say.
Kevin D. Jones, Sr. (@kevindjonessr)
Kevin D. Jones, Sr.